Negative qualities of men that women are trying to change

In seminars for women that I have been running for several years now, participants are asked to give a list of negative masculine qualities and explain why they find fault with them. Women love details and trifles, this is a purely feminine trait.

Women need a plan with details to navigate the flow of little things that occur in life. Since female energy is not finite in its essence, it can endlessly prolong the experience of any moment. Therefore, when a woman discovers a negative quality in a man, she cultivates it. It is better if a woman invests the same amount of strength and ingenuity in the development of her husband's positive qualities.

QUALITIES:

Envious

Hard

You can't have a heart to heart talk with him.

impoliteness

irascibility

HABITS:

Chatting at the table

Inaccurate behavior at the table

Disregard for appearance

foul language

Smoking

Alcoholism

PASSTIME:

Spends too much time:

In the garage

With friends

Front of the TV

At the stadium

ATTITUDE TO DUTIES:

Lazy

Doesn't take care of the household

Blames everyone at work for interfering with his work

His boss is always to blame

He attributes any of his failures to his wife

Failing to follow instructions at work

Curries before the authorities and spends 16 hours in the office

Earns little

Doesn't warn you when it's delayed

Does not call from business trips

Grabs everything at once

Constantly in a hurry

Very slow

BEHAVIOR IN SOCIETY:

Taciturn

chatty

showing off

Talking rudely to people

Cursing in front of rich guests

krykliv

Talking too loud

Poor choice of friends

Treats wife's friends badly

Badly dressed

As you can see, there are a lot of nit-picking women to men. However, if men do not have flaws, then women will stop paying attention to them. Often a man demonstrates the behavior that his wife criticizes. If you carefully study the relationship in the family, it turns out that if a man had no shortcomings, his woman would not notice.

So, finding fault with the fact that the husband likes to brag in the company, the wife, thereby, belittles the achievements and merits of her husband.

And when a wife believes that her husband does not know how to choose friends, then, most likely, the wife's irritation is caused by the fact that she thinks that her outlook on life is more correct.

Alcoholics and those who drink to support the company drink for one reason - it increases their self-esteem. If the wife removed her husband from the life of the family, shuns him with acquaintances, shows her clear superiority over her husband, then he feels bad, he feels psychologically uncomfortable and therefore seeks sympathy and support in the company of drinking companions in order to improve his well-being.

The husband's taciturnity irritates the wife in those cases when she wants her husband to tell others about her and her virtues. Perhaps she would like to boost her self-esteem by making her husband a "talking personal thing."

Your husband's relationship with his superiors is built on the same principles as his relationship with you. You find fault with him - and the boss behaves the same way. When the authorities force him to spend 16 hours at work, it means that you want to make your husband your property and squeeze strength out of him, exploit him, regardless of him and his desires. Therefore, they say that a good wife becomes the rear of her husband and thanks to this, the husband is successfully realized.

If a husband spends a lot of time in front of the TV, then he avoids thinking about his uselessness at home. You impose your interests on him and force him to communicate with you only on those topics that are of interest to you.

If a woman is annoyed by her husband's foul language, she pretends to be a sufferer in order to arouse the sympathy of others, or she considers herself offended by her husband's disrespect. In any case, this suggests that the wife could not maintain the purity of love and ceased to be a real woman for her husband.

Sloppy behavior at the husband’s table, food stains on his clothes and tablecloths - all this suggests that the woman believes that cleaning the house and washing her husband’s things is not a worthy occupation for her.

So, the general rules can be formulated as follows:

If your expectations for yourself, your husband, and your children are a little high, then you are keeping yourself and your family in good shape.

And if your expectations are too high, then you will bring unnecessary suffering to yourself and your loved ones.

Most importantly, your ability to love should not be tied to the successes and achievements or failures of your husband and children.

Correct yourself, and do not seek to blame your man for your own shortcomings.

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Many women idealize the person with whom they decide to connect their lives, and over time they are very disappointed in him. One should not expect too much from people, because each person has his own merits and demerits. But there are those who are worse than others.

A wife may not even know that her husband treats her badly. Because of this, I think it is worth talking about the qualities that all bad husbands have in common in order to help many women understand that they do not deserve such treatment. Here are some qualities of bad husbands:

1. They are jealous and controlling

Trust is an important requirement for a healthy relationship. When a man does not trust his wife, he often becomes jealous and suspicious of everything she does. This type of husband makes his wife sacrifice her dream, career, life and freedom. So he feels that everything is under control.

2. They are cold and inconsiderate

The husband does not put his wife as a priority. He doesn't care about her feelings, let alone her desires. They live selfishly and do not appreciate the qualities of a wife, making her feel abandoned and lonely.

3. They are very critical

Everything his wife does is not good enough. This type of husband will always find something to criticize and complain about. He sees only the negative side of what is happening. He will not take responsibility for his actions and will always blame his wife for everything.

4. They love porn

Pornography addiction is the cause of many relationship problems. This is disrespectful to his wife, it indicates a lack of commitment to the relationship and indicates his terrible character.

5. They are rude and impolite

Bad husbands use terrible language. They are always angry and act in a rude, grumpy manner, and worse, they are prone to violence and insults.

6. They don't cooperate

Some do not contribute to the family income. Others believe that by raising income, they are already doing so much for the family. This attitude results in the husband sprawling on the couch watching TV or meeting up with friends without bothering to help his wife with any chores around the house or taking care of the kids.

7. They are characterized by lies and infidelity

They also do not deal with the truth, because the truth is usually quite dark due to their addictions or infidelity. To make things worse, these husbands will produce a web of lies to support or cover up with other lies until they are completely confused. They are immature and do not recognize their wives and family as the basis of life that every person should be truly happy. These men's wives end up unhappy, unhappy and insecure.

Negative qualities inherent in men and leading to the collapse of the family

At different periods of life and under certain circumstances, these qualities can manifest themselves more and more often in men. In a word, this is a black list of various male qualities.

The man is selfish

By nature, each of us has this quality, and it is considered quite normal, and one might say ordinary in our daily life. Although there are individual instances of men - egocentric, they, as a rule, are not able to hear or see. Often, they are not even able to protect someone other than themselves. Such a man usually does nothing but step on the throats of family members, while he is not able to give something in return.

Men with this quality will not ask you the same questions that you do: do you love me - do you love me? you feel good - and you yourself? you like it - do you? You will never expect such behavior from him, they have amazing energy, but they use it alone.

Irresponsible man

Usually irresponsible men do not adhere to any specific framework, they consider themselves absolutely free people. But under this lies his irresponsible behavior towards everything, he simply does not know what responsibility for his actions is and, of course, cannot be responsible for other people. Of course, do not expect that you can rely on such a man, this will apply to absolutely any issue.

A characteristic feature of his behavior is to build out of himself something more than he really is. Irresponsible men usually do not stay in one marriage, often change their sexual partners and even legal families.

They are characterized by excessive drinking and they cannot find a decent job. In a word - these are real loafers. And many of them regularly lend and borrow money up to payday, if any. They are also scattered and never keep their promises, while constantly looking for excuses for themselves.

Envy of vindictive men

Envy and rancor... The sources of these qualities are the same, but their manifestation may be different. For example, vindictiveness is the most negative character trait for family life. It is simply impossible to live with such a person. The woman actually feels like a sapper walking through a minefield.

A vindictive man does not tend to forgive even the slightest misconduct and mistakes. His behavior can be cruel, and he will not miss the opportunity to touch the sore spot of his wife or any other family member. Even such trifles can be considered serious offenses: a couple of years ago you were late for a meeting, for a couple of minutes, or today you jokingly spoke about his new clothes, and a couple of weeks ago you forgot to call him in time. Absolutely any trifle can become a global problem.

Well, if a man has bouts of envy, then this is directly related to his low self-esteem. Even if you want to report good news, such a man is capable of subjecting them to severe criticism. It may look something like this: you bought yourself a new dress - you’ve got fat for nothing, and if you get promoted in the service, then there is a minus here, for example, an uncomfortable schedule, far from home. This man is incapable of sincerely being happy for you.

uninitiated men

Usually uninitiated men can be called lazy. This man tends to ignore almost any issue that requires his decision. He will not even be able to make an obvious choice because he will need to mobilize all his strength and knowledge. It comes down to the simplest questions - should I take the subway or call a taxi? Go to the store, or get what's left in the fridge? Take white bread or rye? Go to the cinema, or just take a walk? Such a man will not be able to help you in choosing even such trifles, it will be easier for him to answer: come on, not now, I don’t care, decide for yourself, you know better, I don’t need it, I’m tired.

Insincere man

For him, there is no difference between a lie and a half-truth. For example, trust is a reliable foundation for a strong alliance, and without sincerity, even the most ideal relationship will collapse like a house of cards from the wrong touch. Many try to take everything for the good, although sometimes this is done solely from selfish motives. Sooner or later, everything will depend on the circumstances, it will be possible to notice lies and insincerity, and for this it is not necessary to be a super suspicious person.

Man with bad manners

For some, it may seem that the bad manners inherent in a man are not capable of destroying any union. But this is not at all the case, because if a man does not have the usual sense of patience, endurance, a sense of tact, that is, certain internal filters that are able to control behavior and give good manners, then the destruction of even the strongest union will not be avoided.

Lustful man

Sex itself is great, but everything has its limits, time and place. A real man should not drive you under any standards in the art of sex, in any case, this will lead to his disappointment in you and he will find a new model to match. Such a man is clearly not enough for one, even the most ideal, according to other partners.

He will be in constant search of your shortcomings, trying to find them in everything: in appearance, in clothes, in behavior. Lustful men can be harsh in conversation and even insult, often they can flirt with one or more women, and this is in the presence of their partner. They are not able to give pleasure, but can only denigrate you in the presence of others. Do not think that you will gain good experience with such a man, it is simply impossible.

A greedy man or a man's extravagance

Greed itself is characteristic of men due to the stinginess of the soul and, accordingly, the lack of imagination as such. Usually greedy men are simply not able to properly relax, relax and enjoy the life they live. But the funny thing is, they limit not only themselves, but they will not allow you to live a full life. Caring for loved ones and various pleasant little things are not characteristic of them. After all, every man will think only within the framework of upcoming expenses. Such a man usually often reproaches for excess of everything, for example, shoes, clothes, friends, or too much laughter.

But, for example, prodigality, on the contrary, is the desire that prevails over common sense to raise one's opinion of oneself in the eyes of others. But this is all within a rather narrow financial framework. Such a man will not be able to love just like that, and he will never believe that you can love him not for money, but for what he is.

Emotionally unstable men

Hyperemotionality in men can manifest itself in the family, then it is extremely detrimental to all loved ones. A man with excessive emotionality is most likely a sign of mental imbalance and internal discord. This type of men starts up pretty quickly, but just as quickly leaves, in his behavior he is always unpredictable, and often also uncontrollable. Emotionally unstable men can be excellent lovers, but he is simply not suitable for a family. So, how, his emotional mood can change dramatically several times a day: either he has a tantrum, or anger, then joy, or tears. His behavior is unpredictable, he can disappear for several days, or maybe resort to assault.

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If we talk about the most negative qualities of a man in my understanding, then it is worth immediately clarifying that I exclude despotism and drunkenness from the very beginning. That is, a man who is often in a state of a hangover is not an option. Just like I will never let a man hit me, i.e. domestic despot and tyrant are also excluded. But the negative qualities of the male sex do not end there.

Greed


Usually, I try to give a man the right to choose. At least at first. When he invites somewhere, I answer "to your taste." This gives me the opportunity to immediately understand how much he knows women and what he is. Yes, and it gives him a chance to prove himself from the best side. But does he really need it?

That date was not the first. It was just the first date outside the home. Usually, we met at his house, where he fed me grapes and sang songs with a guitar. He took me with songs at first. But it is not endless to sit and listen to his wonderful singing. I wanted variety. And he, under the pressure of lengthy persuasion, agreed to go to a cafe.

As usual, I said "choose to your taste". But, beforehand, on the way, I told him how I want sweets. And already sitting in a cafe, she hinted, shivering, that she was cold. And here I sit in anticipation of coffee and cake. And he suddenly gives the waitress: "We have two beers and pistachios." I was dumbfounded. He knew perfectly well that I did not drink beer.

To my “delight,” he pursed his lips in puzzlement:
“Well, what about you then? Maybe some tea?"
I nodded.
The waitress, as usual, asked: "Anything else?", to which I wanted to mention the cake, but did not have time.
He preempted my response with his clear "No, nothing." I finished my lone coffee, watching him eat pistachios.

“Well, why didn’t we stay at home? I would make you coffee for free and better, ”he was suddenly indignant,“ and there are still grapes left.

But I didn't want any more grapes. Yes, and we broke up with him not after these gatherings, but literally after a couple of days. When a possible meeting with his friends in a bowling alley, which suddenly loomed on the horizon, was postponed indefinitely, and he sat down at home again.

Lack of initiative


Most modern men are lazy. They are not able to surprise, make a surprise, come up with something romantic. They are simply reluctant. We spoiled them. Why come up with ways to take the fortress, if the fortress was dug out of its own accord?

We met at work. Surprisingly, we not only worked together, but also lived in neighboring houses. Therefore, the first date was marked simply by a walk around the area. Well, I didn't mind getting some air. And going around the courtyard, then around the neighboring one, we went into the entrance. Of course, kisses in the stairwell and romantic conversations under the moonlight reminded me of my school years and my first love.

The next day he walked me home again. The fact is that he constantly worked, aimed at senior employees and was forced to stay late. Our weekends overlapped. And he promised me the next time, during such a coincidence, a walk in the park with his dachshund. And I love taxis.

Only now, the next time, when I was already going for the promised walk, he said that today he just needed to see his brother. And that next weekend we will definitely take a walk in the park with a dachshund.

The week flew by quickly, he finished late as always. And I sat and waited for a walk in the park to break off. And then the weekend came. And what do you think? He suddenly had a business. It was vital for him to see a friend. Allegedly, he had serious problems. I'm already worried.

And when for the third week in a row, walking around the house and standing in the entrance, I felt that I was turning into an overgrown girl, I decided to put the question squarely. Well, am I asking too much? Perhaps he was afraid that there, in the park, I would attack him? I don't know.
But, unfortunately, after my questions, the initiative on his part did not increase.
But we broke up not because of this.




Ownership


Quite natural for a man, isn't it? But in order. Yes, a man has the privilege of claiming his rights to a woman when the relationship is already serious and stable. But, my lack of initiative gentleman turned out to be everything else, also a terrible owner.

I decided to visit a friend. It was evening, and we stayed up until 10 o'clock. I was about to leave. When all of a sudden the phone rang. It was he.
"Where are you?" - an outraged question.
“Visiting a friend” - I didn’t lie.
"What the heck? It's already 10pm! My girlfriend should be home at 9,” he stunned me. An angry tirade.
"Are you out of your mind?" was all I could ask.
“Give the phone to your friend. I'll come for you now, and for this to be the last time, ”the voice on the phone finally finished me off.

Of course, I didn't give my friend the phone. I'm not one of those girls. It is still important for me to have my own space and a certain amount of freedom. Especially when you consider that our romance was on the strength of a month. It didn't last longer.

In fourth and fifth place, I would put the lack of a sense of humor and tediousness.

I am sure that if a man is endowed with intelligence, a sense of humor and a sense of proportion, then such unpleasant stories should not happen. Although, for sure, even such unlucky suitors will certainly find their Malvina. Who will give the phone to a friend, and be content with cold coffee and pistachios.
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Good afternoon, our dear readers! Let's find out together with you whatgood and bad qualities have men. How to enhance good qualities and correct bad ones. Is it worth it to put up with the bad qualities of your man. And why guys are not ashamed of their negative qualities.

All men have both bad and good sides and qualities! How to direct his good qualities to yourself?! How to teach him to get rid of his bad sides?! Read the advice of family psychologists in our article!

What are the good qualities of a guy

Everyone has both qualities. But they must be in balance. Specificallygood qualities Your his guy- these are, in fact, those aspects of it that suit you. But he may not perceive his bad sides negatively. Also, a guy may be dissatisfied with his positive traits.

For you and me qualities of a maneasier to organizelist. Let's start with his good features.

courageous man

What is called real. A kind of modern knight. This includes courage, determination to fight for your beloved and defend your point of view. His decisions must be impartial and noble. And of course, according to our understanding - always in our favor.

But he himself may be uncomfortable because of such nobility. He constantly infringes on himself in favor of your or universal justice. Yes, and must forgive small or not so favorite misses! After all, a man cannot offend a lady.

So that he does not lose the spirit of nobility, you need to note at the opportunity that you see his victim. Why do you love him. Praise in front of others. And periodically admit that you are wrong.

Responsibility

You can hide behind him, throw off duties. He himself will remember the necessary dates and buy gifts in advance. He will feed the children without a reminder, the package in the trash is always clean. All invoices are paid in advance. And if a problem arises, he will flash his eyes - and that's it, the problem is solved.

And it is very difficult for him. Surrounding, and the beloved herself, involuntarily throw off everything they can on him. And he can't refuse. Hence the feeling of loneliness, use and overwork.

You have to show him that this is what makes him a man. And a little defiantly, but naturally, share responsibilities and encourage him. For example: “You vacuumed today! You are my hero! Then I will pamper you with a wonderful massage!” Or: “Have you already taken the children from kindergarten? Well then, at the weekend we will go not to my, but to your mother! You can't just let him go. Believe me, having heard this, next time he will do not one, but ten things in advance!

Honesty for your loved one

All qualities for relationshipsstrong and long are based on honesty. No "black bookkeeping" and stash. No secret dates with other girls.

Usually an honest person is honest in everything. And he will honestly answer that your dress has a stain, and a pimple popped up on your forehead. Direct honesty sets the whole world against him - others do not want to hear the naked truth.

In order to maintain and improve this good and bad trait at the same time, you will have to try. It is better to consult a psychologist or teacher. And gradually teach your favorite tact. That is, keep his honesty, but help him present the truth in the correct form.

Wild animal in bed

Eroticism flows from him like a waterfall. He does not want intimacy around the clock, but if you have already started, then to the point of exhaustion! And, of course, he is attractive and attractive. A little fantasy and complete care for you in bed.

This quality is easier to see in a cheap novel than in real life. These qualities are more natural than moral. But they can be trained. Educate. Or choose a man who has already been in 1-2 marriages. Then he knows for sure.

Is he attentive and adapts to you? And you should do the same! Even the most interesting game with only one goal gets boring. Fantasy, on the other hand, must develop in both at the same time - or as lovers you will not be combined. Studying the right books, practices and videos together is the best solution!

Freedom and affection

This is the ability to think broadly, but always be close to your beloved.

How to combine it? Free thought slows down, if attention is directed only to you.

Give him freedom. Allow yourself to take care of yourself. Set aside time when he is on his own. In gratitude, if necessary, he will immediately come to you at the first call!

Bad habits - no!

Alcohol or smoking is both harmful and expensive! And you don’t need drunken snoring under your ear!

It is extremely difficult to abandon the tradition of "beer with friends" or cigarettes before bed. You need to assess his interests and teach him to enjoy life without stimulants.

Bad qualities of a guy

Bad qualities of a guyare good vice versa. Any of us will call on the fly3 bad qualities his guy: intolerant, lazy, speaks rudely. But even if he was not like this before, then with you he is like that, because you allow it. He lacks either awareness or respect.

You definitely can't beat it! Only heart-to-heart talks, only a hundred explanations every minute. And my own example. It seems incredible, but many guys think after the girl’s phrase: “Why are you acting like this?”. Often he just doesn't think about it.

Bad qualities of a mannot all of us are willing to endure. But in vain. You need to constantly correct him and hint, or speak directly - 20 times, 50 times - and he will get used to the fact that you do not like aggression in bed, that socks should be in the laundry basket, that you need to help around the house. After all, admit it, you also do not always immediately remember what you are asked for ?!

Sometimes bad qualities in a relationshipguys show up thinking it's cool. Even grown men do this. Show him that good is cooler! Praise and exalt for showing positive action. Gently, without insults or screams, explain that bad features do not paint him.

Sometimes manifestations of bad qualities are necessary for him. He feels uncomfortable if he is not interested in hearing how you went for a manicure. Or dirty socks in the middle of the room - a necessary part of comfort. Not immediately, but he will tell you why he cannot do otherwise. Perhaps some details of his behavior will have to put up with all his life.

Good and bad qualities of a man - conclusion

Your boyfriend doesn't become bad on his own because of his bad traits. And a loved one is loved for that, to understand and accept it. Even with some bad qualities. We are also not perfect in everything. And they still love us!

Be happy! See you on our blog again!