Communication is the interaction of people in the process of communication, based on the exchange of information. This is not only speech addressed to a certain person, but also listening. Written speech and reading are also types, when the author and the reader “communicate” autonomously, without direct contact. In the process of such communication, the receiving party is just as actively involved in the process as in live communication - it perceives the text not only at the level of familiarization. The reader reacts to what he read with emotions, can empathize with the author, be indignant, disagreeing with the author's point of view or manner of writing.

There is also a non-verbal impact and reaction. When you tell something to the interlocutor or act as a listener, you show each other certain gestures, and facial expressions testify to the feeling experienced at that moment.

Communication is the main need of society

Communication and communication is an integral part of the social interaction that every rational being needs. It is difficult to imagine a person who would like to spend his whole life alone. Communication is one of the basic needs of people, through those around us we learn the world, gain experience. The choice of the environment with which communication is built directly affects the way of life. By the one with whom a person communicates, one can judge different aspects of his personality.

Formula for success

Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" in an accessible and entertaining way reveals the main principle of communication - the ability not only to speak, but also to listen. The formula for success, dictated by the famous author, is based on empathy and attentiveness to the needs of others. This tactic helps to quickly win over an opponent.

Most of us enthusiastically and for a long time are ready to talk about ourselves, forgetting about everything in a stream of words. Carnegie, on the other hand, proposes to build a dialogue in such a way as to assign the main role to the interlocutor, to emphasize the value of his judgments and feelings with sincere interest. Properly built communication is, first of all, a mutually pleasant relationship.

Sociability

Communication is inseparably linked with the development of communication skills. What is the difference? If the first term includes the components of communication (speech, response to it, listening, etc.), then the second defines their quality. Sociability is a set of ways of communication, and sociability is their property, character.

Sociable - does not mean chatty

A feature of a sociable person will be ease of communication - such people do not pretend to leadership positions in a conversation, they are on an equal footing with the interlocutor. A sociable person always has something to say, and most importantly - something to ask, but this does not mean at all that such a person is talkative. It does not happen "too much" and it is a developed sense of proportion in their statements that distinguishes sociability from talkativeness.

The communication skills he possesses make him sensitive to the needs of the situation. He equally easily enters into a dialogue with completely different people, maintaining a tone appropriate to the situation. A sociable person is a talented diplomat who can negotiate smoothly and effectively.

Such people are erudite and with pleasure use in communication a complex of knowledge about culture and history, adapt them to the interests of the audience.

Ways to develop communicative qualities

Communication is a tool that requires constant improvement. Communication skills can be developed, that is, if today you are afraid to enter into a dialogue and think that you do not know how to communicate, work on yourself. Everyone can learn to be an active and pleasant conversationalist.

To do this, it is important to apply a simple set of rules aimed at developing communication.

1. We leave the comfort zone. Do not be afraid to enrich your life with new acquaintances just because you think you will not be accepted by society. Be kind and confident. Throw away unnecessary excitement and believe that everything is going well.
2. Look for the good. The most difficult person in communication or unpleasant for you cannot be absolutely bad and have no merits. Strive to find the best in people. Want to see the interlocutor from his best side.
3. Be indulgent to other people's shortcomings. Before you judge someone, try to put yourself in their shoes. Nobody is perfect. You are included.
4. Show initiative. Faced with an unfamiliar person, do not rush to run away. Talk to him first. Although the greeting and your question may not be original, the next time you see him again, it will be much easier for you to strike up a conversation. Most likely, you will not have to do this at all, and your friend will decide to approach you himself!

Love people, open up for communication. Who knows, maybe today's casual acquaintance will become your best friend, support and shield tomorrow?

Any communication, including business communication, is primarily communication, that is, the exchange of information that is significant for the participants in communication . The very concept of "communication" (from Latin communicatio - message, connection, way of communication, and this word, in turn, comes from communico - I make common, connect, communicate) denotes the semantic aspect of social interaction.

Communication and its types- is sometimes considered as a process of interaction between people, during which interpersonal relationships arise, manifest and form. Communication involves the exchange of thoughts, feelings, experiences, etc.

Talking about things like communicative personality, it should be borne in mind that this phenomenon must be considered not only as a combination of some characterological properties and qualities that allow the process of communication to be carried out, but also that the communicativeness of a person is a component of the motivational-need sphere. This implies that communication requires the presence of an appropriate orientation of the personality, which determines the social and moral weight of the personality, its needs, interests, beliefs, ideals and corresponding value orientations, which, as a rule, do not directly motivate behavior, but perform a coordinating function, including "filtering".

Communication personalities as a whole is determined by such components as communicative activity, emotional reactivity in communication, communicative confidence, communicative object.

The concept of communicativeness must be supplemented with elements related to the awareness of the activity environment (social and physical) surrounding a person and the ability to influence it in order to achieve one's goals, and in conditions of joint work to make one's actions understandable to others.

Communication - the ability to communicate. Communication, as has already been revealed, is a complex multifaceted process of establishing and developing contacts between people, generated by the needs of joint activities and including the exchange of information, the development of a unified interaction strategy, the perception and understanding of another person.

Effective Communication- communication that contributes to the achievement of the goals of the participants in communication. It involves clarifying the following questions: what are the means of communication and how to use them correctly in the process of communication; how to overcome communication barriers of misunderstanding and make communication successful.

Main communication functions:

Informative - the transmission of true or false information;

Interactive (incentive) - organization of interaction between people, for example, coordination of actions, distribution of functions, influence on the mood, beliefs, behavior of the interlocutor through the use of various forms of influence: suggestion, order, request, persuasion;

Perceptual function - the perception of each other by communication partners and the establishment of mutual understanding on this basis;

· expressive - excitation or change in the nature of emotional experiences.

Communication, being a complex socio-psychological process of mutual understanding between people, is carried out through the following main channels: speech (verbal) and non-speech (non-verbal) channels of communication. Verbal (from Latin verbalis - verbal, oral) - in psychology, this term serves to refer to information expressed by a sign, namely a verbal, language system. Studies show that in the daily act of human communication, words make up 7%, sounds and intonations - 38%, non-verbal interaction - 55%.

Verbal communication (verbal communication) uses human speech as a sign system, natural sound language, that is, a system of phonetic signs that includes two principles: lexical and syntactic. Speech is the most universal means of communication, since when information is transmitted through speech, the meaning of the message is least of all lost. Speech, as a means of communication, simultaneously acts both as a source of information and as a way of influencing the interlocutor. The significance of speech for a person is very great: it makes the experience of all mankind the property of individual consciousness, it takes our consciousness beyond the limits of sensory experience. Based on the original form of direct communication in the process of historical In the development of mankind, forms of mediated communication arose and developed. The emergence of writing played a decisive role in their formation, thanks to which it became possible to overcome the “unity of place and time of action” necessary for direct communication. mediated communication- this is communication, in which intermediate links are wedged in the form of a third person, a mechanism, a thing. If, for example, two people are talking on the phone, then mediation can be considered minimal: they hear each other, but cannot touch each other. In the case when one sends a letter to another or transmits a message through third parties, the mediation is significant.

Distinctive features of oral and written speech For a person who has mastered the written language, the scope of communication, and therefore the sources from which he can “draw experience”, is greatly expanded. But at the same time, in communication mediated by writing, mimic and pantomimic means have lost their significance. Yes, and the written speech itself is devoid of many features that are characteristic of oral speech (for example, intonation characteristics closely related to the expression of emotional states). Lomov B.F., 1984, p. 265.

Direct verbal communication most often takes the form conversation

In the structure of speech communication includes:

1) The meaning and meaning of words, phrases. An important role is also played by the accuracy of the use of the word, its expressiveness and accessibility, the correct construction of the phrase and its intelligibility, the correct pronunciation of sounds, words, the expressiveness and meaning of intonation.

3) Speech sound phenomena (extralinguistic system): characteristic specific sounds that occur during communication: laughter, grunting, crying, whispering, sighing, etc .; separating sounds are a cough; zero sounds - pauses, as well as nasalization sounds - “hm-hm”, “mg-mg”, etc. All these additions increase semantically significant information, but not through additional speech inclusions, but by “near-speech” techniques.

Dialogue, or dialogic speech, as a specific type of "conversation" is a successive change of communicative roles, during which the meaning of the speech message is revealed, that is, the phenomenon that was designated as "enrichment, development of information" occurs. . Conversation, which has become commonplace for people, is subject to certain rules, has a certain order and structure. N. I. Semechkin (2004) gives the following description of the conversation.

There are three types of conversation:

1) formalized, where the conversation follows a strict, predetermined regulation (for example, negotiations, meetings, conferences, etc.);

2) semi-formalized, where there is no pre-set regulation, but still some canons are observed (small conversations, official receptions);

3) informal, where there are also rules, which, however, regulate not the external, but the internal, essential side of the conversation. These rules are quite flexible, changing depending on the situation (for example, everyday conversations with relatives, acquaintances, random interlocutors).

Regardless of the type, all conversations are subject to a single logic based on rhetorical principles of speech influence.

Business rhetoric uses the following principles of speech influence: accessibility, associativity, sensory, expressiveness, intensity.

Availability assumes the balance of the content of speech, taking into account the cultural and educational level of the listeners, their life and production experience. Many people hear what they want to hear. Therefore, one should take into account the social composition of the audience (pensioners, young people, women, scientists, etc.). An effective method is to update the content, use little-known information (novelty and originality), a combination of diverse information, and their reliability.

Associativity means the challenge of empathy and co-reflection, which is achieved by appealing to the emotional and rational memory of the listeners. For this, such techniques as analogies, references to precedents, figurativeness of the statement are used. A special series of techniques is associated with the involvement of poetry, music, painting, video films, etc.

Sensory provides for the widespread use of color, light, sound, drawings, models in communication. The more thoroughly and versatile human sensations are involved, the more effectively information penetrates into the psyche of people and the process of its development is more active in it.

expressiveness implies the emotional intensity of speech, its emotional subtext, the expressiveness of facial expressions, gestures, posture of the speaker. Such openness from inside the speaker testifies to his complete dedication. Passion, genuine joy or sadness, compassion - all these are specific forms of expressiveness.

Intensity characterizes the rate of presentation of information, the degree of mobility of the speaker during communication. Different information and different people need a differentiated pace of presentation and assimilation of what they hear. It is necessary to take into account the temperament of people, their readiness to accept a particular type of information, their personal interest in it. For example, speeches at the council of the organization and at a street rally, of course, are served at a different pace. In this regard, the orientation of the speaker in the mood of the audience, the ability to offer her an acceptable high-speed mode of assimilation of information are important. These principles of communicative communication become most expressive with the skillful use of rhetorical tools.

Its practical purpose is to give communication communication an impact on the thoughts and feelings of people.

communication effects. This rhetorical toolkit appears as the following set communicative effects: visual image, first phrases, argumentation, quantum release of information, intonation and pause, artistic expressiveness, relaxation, dispersion.

visual image effect calculated on the impression of the appearance of the speaker, which causes sympathy or dislike even before the speaker has begun to speak. An attractive appearance, an elegant manner of communication, a friendly, open look - all this has a positive effect on people before the speaker begins his speech.

The effect of the first phrases, as a rule, reinforces or corrects the initial impression of the speaker. The main criterion for the effect of the initial phrases is the attractive information contained in them. It may be well-known, but presented in a new interpretation, accompanied by original examples. When preparing for a speech, it is very important to determine the main social groups of the audience, the mood and expectations, and the characteristics of the emotional warehouse. Therefore, it is necessary to have a set of initial phrases focused on the social groups that prevail in the audience.

Argumentation effect is based on the logic of the speech, which gives it validity and persuasiveness. If logic is the internal organization of speech, then its external side is theoretical and practical argumentation. TO theoretical argument include scientific provisions, concepts, practical - specific facts, figures, statistics.

The effect of quantum burst of information is one of the most effective rhetorical devices for maintaining the attention of the audience. It is based on a premeditated placement of new thoughts and arguments throughout the speech. Thus, the speaker activates attention, throwing out quanta of fresh information at certain time intervals.

Intonation and pause effect a very accessible and productive rhetorical tool. Experts say that intonation and pauses contribute to a 10-15% increase in information. This is the nature of human perception. Giving a word or phrase a certain voice tone, as a rule, causes certain associations in the listening people. As a result, there is an informative increment to what the speaker says. A delicate rhetorical tool is a pause. Its use is effective when there is confidence

the speaker that his listeners are actively involved in the communication process, that their thinking, memory and imagination actively participate in it. It is then that a pause is useful for students to independently comprehend the information received, connect their own knowledge to it.

artistic expressive effect associated with the ability to turn thoughts into appropriate words, competently build sentences, follow the rules of word stress. The logic of speech suggests which phrases are worthy of taking a place in speech. Not every phrase can be inserted into a speech. These can only be phrases that do not violate the meaning of the presentation, provide its speech embodiment, accessible for comprehension.

Relaxation effect used by the speaker to help the audience. The ability to listen is important. The more difficult the speech, the more effort the listeners have to make to concentrate their attention. The purpose of the relaxation effect is to relieve emotional tension. Humor is a classic example of this. Humor creates a natural pause for relaxation and an opportunity to restore emotional energy.

dispersion effect. Let us give the following data: if we indicate the idea of ​​​​a speech as 100%, then 90% of it takes on a verbal form, of which 80% i received oral sound, while 70% i were heard by the audience, 60% of the amount of information heard were understood, and remained in memory about 25%).

Thus, the communication process is not a transfusion of information from one vessel to another. It is characterized by continuous loss of information and subjective distortion. There are many reasons for this. One of them in rhetoric is denoted by the concept of "dispersion loss". By them is meant the dissemination of information as it is received from the speaker.

Features and significance of the non-verbal channel of communication. In the process of communication, along with mutual information, people also interact with each other. An important role in the analysis of this side of communication is played by the motives of the communicants, their goals, attitudes, etc. For a more complete consideration of them, it is necessary to turn to the non-verbal channel of communication, to those sign systems that are included in communication in addition to speech. Every year, scientists become more and more convinced of how significant non-verbal means are in the course of human interaction. Note that this circumstance is confirmed in experiments conducted mainly by psychologists.

In particular, Albert Meyerabian found that the transmission of information occurs through verbal means (only words) by 7%, by sound means (including tone of voice, intonation) by 38% and by non-verbal means - by 55%. Professor Birdwistell, doing similar research, found that the average person only speaks words for 10-11 minutes a day, and that each sentence lasts no more than 2.5 seconds on average. Like Meyerabian, he found that less than 35% of the information in a conversation is verbal, while more than 65% of the information is conveyed through non-verbal means.

These data eloquently speak of the decisive importance of non-verbals for the psychology of communication and mutual understanding of people, and pay special attention to the significance of human gestures and facial expressions.

Regarding the features of body language, we also note that its manifestation is due to the impulses of our subconscious, and the inability to fake these impulses allows us to trust this language more than the usual verbal communication channel. “Body language is more truthful than the language of words,” Horst Rückle rightly remarks on this matter.

Most researchers share the opinion that the verbal (verbal) channel is used to convey information, while the non-verbal channel is used to discuss interpersonal relationships, convey emotions, and in some cases is used instead of verbal messages. Non-verbal communication, according to N.N. Obozov, fills communication with living human content, as it were, and is especially important in the transfer of emotional states, acting as a kind of address to each other.

Non-verbal communication (non-verbal communication) includes the following main sign systems (a set of visual, acoustic, tactile, kinesic, proxemic, acoustic, paralinguistic and extralinguistic means of communication): 1) optical-kinetic (gestures, facial expressions, pantomimics - movement and postures, direction of gaze, visual contact, redness and blanching of the skin, motility stereotypes); 2) para- and extralinguistic, 3) organization of space and time of the communicative process (proxemics), 4) subject contact, tactile actions (handshakes, hugs, kisses, pats, pushes, strokes, touches, slaps, blows); 5) olfactory (associated with smell).

The totality of these tools is necessary to implement the following communication functions:

addition of speech and substitution of speech;

Representation of the emotional states of partners in the communicative process, detection of the intentions of the interlocutor;

creation and support of psychological contact, its regulation in the process of communication;

giving new semantic shades of the reported information, directing the process of interpreting words and expressions in the right direction;

Expression of the accepted role, the meaning of the situation;

strengthening of verbal influence, etc.

Most researchers agree that with the help of words information is transmitted mainly, and with the help of gestures - a different attitude to this information, and sometimes gestures can replace words.

Optical-kinetic system of signs includes:

Gestures - movements that convey the mental state of a person speaking or thinking to himself;

facial expressions - movements of the muscles of the face, reflecting the internal emotional state;

pantomime - the dynamic state of the posture at a particular moment of communication;

eye contact - intensity, duration, frequency of exchange of glances from interlocutors.

Spatio-temporal organization of communication. The science that studies the location of people in space during communication is called proxemics. The organization of space and time of the communicative process also acts as a special sign system, carries a semantic load as a component of the communicative situation. So, for example, placing partners facing each other contributes to the emergence of contact, symbolizes attention to the speaker, while a shout in the back can also have a certain negative value.

Proxemics- a special area dealing with the norms of the spatial and temporal organization of communication; currently has a large amount of experimental material. The founder of proxemics - E. Hall calls it "spatial psychology". He investigated the first forms of spatial organization of communication in animals; proposed a special method for assessing the intimacy of human communication based on the study of the organization of its space; fixed, for example, the norms of approaching a person to a communication partner, characteristic of American culture: intimate distance (0 - 45 cm); personal distance (45 - 120 cm), social distance (120 - 400 cm); public distance (400 - 750 cm).

Intimate area (0 - 45 cm). Only close, well-known people are allowed into this zone; this zone is characterized by trust, a low voice in communication, tactile contact, and touch. Studies show that violation of the intimate zone entails certain physiological changes in the body: increased heart rate, increased release of adrenaline, a rush of blood to the head, etc. Premature intrusion into the intimate zone in the process of communication is always perceived by the interlocutor as an attack on his immunity.

The personal or personal zone (45 - 120 cm) is intended for everyday conversation with friends and colleagues and involves only visual-visual contact between partners who support the conversation.

The social zone (120 - 400 cm) is usually observed during official meetings in offices, teaching and other office premises, as a rule, with those people who are not very well known.

The public area (over 400 cm) implies communication with a large group of people (in a lecture hall, at a rally, etc.).

These data are of great practical importance, primarily in the analysis of the success of various discussion groups.

Thus, the analysis of all systems of non-verbal communication shows that they undoubtedly play a large auxiliary (and sometimes independent) role in the communicative process.

Reasons for poor communication can be:

1. stereotypes - simplified opinions about individuals or situations, resulting in no objective analysis and understanding of people, situations, problems;
2. "preconceived notions" - the tendency to reject everything that contradicts one's own views, what is new, unusual. We rarely realize that another person's interpretation of events is just as legitimate as our own;
3. bad relations between people, because if a person’s attitude is hostile, then it is difficult to convince him of the justice of your view;
4. lack of attention and interest of the interlocutor - and interest arises when a person realizes the importance of information for himself: with the help of this information, you can get what you want or prevent an undesirable development of events;
5. disregard for facts, i.e. the habit of drawing conclusions-conclusions in the absence of a sufficient number of facts;
6. errors in the construction of statements: the wrong choice of words, the complexity of the message, weak persuasiveness, illogicality, etc. etc.;
7. wrong choice of strategy and tactics of communication. Communication strategies: 1) open - closed communication; 2) monologue - dialogic; 3) role-playing (based on the social role) - personal (heart-to-heart communication).

1. Easy to contact, sociable.

Sociable person. Communicative employee of the company.

Data from other dictionaries

Ed. S. A. Kuznetsova

communicable

1. Easy to communicate, sociable.

K. character. He is very communicative.

His k. is amazing.

communicable

1. One who easily comes into contact with other people and with whom it is easy to communicate and deal with.

He is quite communicative.

communicable

1. Able to establish contacts and connections, easily establishing them, sociable (sociable person).

Sociability

Sociability (novolat. connectable, communicating) - the ability to communicate, to establish connections, contacts, sociability; compatibility (ability to work together) of different types of information transmission systems.

Expressions containing "communicative":

Sociability child is a boon for the successful outcome of the adaptation process.

The third condition for success, closely related to the first and second, is sociability and mobility.

Classes and games with balls provide an opportunity to directly influence the education of positive personal qualities - diligence, perseverance, sociability, on the upbringing of a fighting character, strong-willed and high moral qualities.

Communication skills: advantage or disadvantage?

When describing personal qualities in a resume, it is customary to indicate standard traits. Sociability is found in every second questionnaire. At the same time, some people do not understand what a skill is or simply do not possess it. It is enough for the employer to ask a few questions to understand whether you have the ability to communicate. How important is this trait for professional growth and communication with friends? What is human communication? - we give a definition and consider the signs, find out whether it is an advantage or a disadvantage.

What does sociable person mean?

The basis of this concept is the answer to the question. Communication is the ability to get along with people, regardless of status and degree of acquaintance. The skill is valued at work, as such a person is sent to important negotiations. A sociable personality manifests itself in the company. Such a person is distinguished by interesting communication, gesticulation, the ability to choose a topic of conversation, stories are retold to them in an interesting, lively and vivid way - this is what communicative (communicative) means in simple words.

What does sociable person mean? Unlike the sociable personality, communicative people are not just good storytellers who are fun to chat with at lunchtime. This is an educated and tactful person with a delivered speech. He does not just talk, but also pursues a specific goal: to calm a dissatisfied client, to persuade a partner to make a deal, to reduce the time for obtaining documents. The sociable person knows how to negotiate and get results.

How to understand whether your interlocutor is a communicative person or not? Sometimes even a few minutes are enough for this - such a person gets real pleasure from communication. He easily selects words, is self-confident, charismatic in his own way, easily finds topics for conversation, regardless of who he communicates with. The ability to communicate interestingly and vividly does not depend on age- it can be a sociable girl or a gray-haired old man: a conversation with both will be not only pleasant, but most often useful, since truly communicative people are far from empty chatter.

First of all, this is someone who enjoys communication. A sociable person does not care with whom to communicate, he is interested in the process itself. Communicative people are characterized by flexibility in contacts, the ability and ability not to get confused when communicating in different situations, self-confidence, they easily adapt to new conditions, are able to successfully negotiate, strive for initiative and leadership in a team.

Communicative vs Communicative: What's the Difference?

More often, both of these words are used interchangeably without a second thought: sociable (communicative) person - able to communicate, "easy" in conversation, knowing what to say and what to ask. In fact, if you dig deeper into word formation, there is a very fundamental difference:

"communicable" always used in relation to a person and is his positive characteristic - this is the ability of a person to establish contacts, sociability, pleasant and easy conversation;
"communicative"- has a slightly different meaning of the word than that in which it is usually used, and means "related to the transmission of information using language." It is used in relation to skills, skills, games, exercises, even dances and music.

Communication is of two types:

Written. The skills of a person who owns this skill come down to writing letters, filling out official documents. At the same time, he does not allow spelling errors, expresses thoughts clearly and to the point. Written communication skills are a necessary quality for secretaries and senior positions.
Oral. The secret of a successful interlocutor lies in the ability to listen. A sociable person has this skill to perfection. Plus, he knows how to turn the conversation in the right direction and persuade the interlocutor to his point of view. The conversation takes place in a calm tone, increased notes and pressure on the opponent are unacceptable.

A sociable person has a sense of tact, subtle humor, the ability to dress in accordance with the situation. He carefully observes the interlocutor, reads gestures. Does not enter into arguments and does not allow indignation, anger or irritation to take over.

Advantages and disadvantages of communication

People with communication skills are happy to be hired and promoted up the career ladder. But, it is worthwhile to understand that sociability borders on other skills: self-confidence, leadership and initiative. Not all managers are ready for such active employee behavior. Therefore, conflicts are possible, up to dismissal. However, the advantages of communication are much greater. Consider the advantages and disadvantages of communication. Among the positives:

Ability to communicate. The concept includes not empty chatter, but listening to a person, maintaining a conversation. People cross paths with similar interests. A sociable person finds common ground, developing common interests. Thus, he disposes the interlocutor to himself, so that later he can easily persuade him to his side.
Calm. Despite the activity and playfulness, a sociable person has equanimity. Anxiety, fussiness, fear of participating in negotiations does not come from him. People are attracted by calmness, goodwill and openness coming from a communicative personality.
Attentiveness. Such a person will be the first to respond to the greeting, smooth out the conflict, and sum up the results of the meeting. There will be no awkward pauses and useless negotiations with him. After talking with a sociable person, there is a feeling that he was talking with a good friend.

The ability and desire to communicate can play a cruel joke on a person. Not for all positions - this is a necessary quality. If the courier, in addition to delivering the goods, starts telling stories, funny or scandalous cases, then this will not be reflected in the best way on the company's reputation. Among the disadvantages of sociability are:

Excessive artistry. Interesting storytellers attract attention. A sociable person knows how to intrigue, makes effective pauses, plays with words, attracts with gestures, facial expressions. Sometimes such a transformation into different roles is inappropriate and causes misunderstanding of others. In reasonable measures, artistry attracts interlocutors.
obsession. Establishing a relationship with a stranger is not easy, you have to make a lot of effort. The task of a sociable person is to achieve a result. Therefore, various methods of influence are used: phone calls, “random” meetings. If you overdo it, then such actions will be regarded as excessive obsession.

You should not consider a sociable person as a nice kind person. In the right situation he can be aggressive, and this manifests itself in the form of evil or witty jokes. True, he rarely resorts to reserve weapons when he needs to state his decision in an authoritarian manner.

Development of communication skills

This skill saves in many situations and helps to prove yourself as a valuable employee, but how to develop sociability in yourself, develop and improve sociability at work? Communication is not given by nature. It is impossible from a gloomy person who does not like communication, avoiding meetings with familiar people, in one day will turn into a pleasant conversationalist. To develop communication skills, follow these recommendations:

Conclusion

Many would like to be sociable and sociable, but, alas, not everyone is given - in part it is the same quality of personality as temperament and character. But if desired or even necessary, even the most unsociable and gloomy person can develop the ability to communicate and disposition to the interlocutor. Sociability is a quality that helps out at work, helps to move up the career ladder. In its pure form, the skill is rare and much in a person's ability to communicate in society depends on his life experience, the process of becoming a person, and even childhood memories and impressions.

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Sociability also has negative features: since a person is influenced by external circumstances and qualities of character, the so-called “ability to communicate” often results in obsession or empty talk. In order to reach the golden mean and “remove” the label of a non-sociable girl (or boy) from yourself, you have to work on yourself, and then this quality, necessary for personal growth and gaining confidence, will please not only you, but also your interlocutors.

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Sociability

Sociability is an acquired personality trait, manifested in a person’s ability to use his abilities to build productive interaction as efficiently and adequately as possible. In the scientific paradigm, sociability is a quality that shows not only the ability of a person to communicate, but also to search for compatibility, to establish relationships with other people. It manifests itself in a high ability to work together, and not only as a participant, but also as a leader and organizer of this type of activity. This is key in some specific customer-focused or communications-based activities, but beyond that, communication is often an added bonus in any other line of work.

In the field of intimate communication or friendly relations, sociability implies the ability to establish productive contact. Using life examples, this can be expressed as a person’s ability to maintain an interesting dialogue for a long time, the ability to interest the interlocutor, to support, as well as some elements of an empathic understanding of others. From a negative point of view, the word sociability in interpersonal interaction can be equated with talkativeness or importunity, but these concepts do not reflect the full true meaning of the term.

What does it mean

High sociability of a person, as well as a decrease in the level of sociability, are not innate qualities of a person. These parameters are formed individually due to the influence of many factors, including the type of the nervous system, the features of building interaction in the parental family, the type of upbringing, individual preferences of a person, internalized from books and the surrounding society. The group of peers and the place of the individual in it occupied, the received psychotraumas or, on the contrary, success stories, a complex and inflated self-esteem also leave an imprint on the level of sociability. As far as it can be seen from the factors that determine sociability, this quality cannot be finally formed by a certain age, but also, in principle, does not imply the final version of development.

Under certain conditions, a person can show high communication skills, while, having changed the social environment, or self-awareness, this level can drop to critically low levels. Awareness of one's social role (whether it is appropriated independently or imposed by a reference group) largely dictates the characteristics of human behavior, which includes communication. So in the environment where you appear as a daughter, brother, son, wife, the level of sociability can increase if there are no intra-family problems. Those who consider themselves a leader may notice inspiration and the ability to negotiate with anyone exclusively within the walls of the office, while losing these skills in banal everyday situations.

After reading the words in the title of the topic, you probably noted that they are similar in their sound, but at the same time, you realized that each of them has its own meaning, and therefore it is necessary to use them in speech in accordance with this specific meaning.

The word "sociable" is a positive characteristic of a person. So they say about a person who is capable of establishing contacts, a sociable interlocutor, with whom it is pleasant to deal, it is easy to communicate. You can often find this word in a resume among other personal qualities.

"Communicative" means "concerning the transmission of information through the use of language". It is correct to call skills, skills, games, exercises as communicative. But the word "communication" means "which is a way of communication, communication." This means that the process can be called communication.

Such a phenomenon in the language, when two or more words that sound similar, but have different meanings, are mistakenly used one instead of the other, is called paronymy, and the words that make up such pairs are called paronyms: addressee and addressee, boatswain and pilot, flint and silicon, emigrant and immigrant...

The use of one word instead of another, similar-sounding, is explained both by their semantic proximity and insufficiently firm knowledge of the meaning of one or even both words, i.e. speaker's incompetence. But there is a dictionary and reference literature. What is easier is to open the "Dictionary of Russian Paronyms" and read about the meaning of words, so as not to make mistakes and not blush in front of your interlocutor. By the way, this dictionary consists of 1468 nests of paronyms, which is more than 3000 words!

A.M. Gorky also drew attention to errors in the use of similar-sounding words - paronyms, who wrote in the article “On the Benefits of Literacy”: “Put the step of the foot forward, one poet advises, not noticing the difference between the foot and the step of the ladder. Another prose writer writes: He clicked the gate with the ankle instead of the latch.

Every literate person needs to know exactly the meaning of the words he uses. Incorrect use and confusion of words leads to misunderstanding between the speaker and the listener, to the impoverishment of the language, and sometimes even to ridiculous, funny situations. Here are some mistakes in the use of similar-sounding words:
- The freshman always confused hygiene with a hyena.
- The director of the plant called for urgent virgin measures.
- Inspired by novels, the partisans rushed to smash the enemy.
- In three years, the daughter caught up with her mother in age.

Let's look through the Dictionary of Paronyms.

thrifty - careful
Thrifty - economical, prudent.
Careful - caring, careful, careful.

busy - busy
Busy - not having free time, burdened with business, work.
Employed - not free, doing something at the moment.

Zdravica - health resort
A toast is a toast, a short speech wishing health.
Health resort - an institution equipped for treatment and recreation, a sanatorium.

Artful - artificial
Skilled - having great skill, skillful, experienced.
Artificial - 1. Made by human hands. 2. Fake, far-fetched.

put on - put on
Put on - 1. Pull on, pull on (clothes, shoes, case). 2. Put on by putting on or piercing. Dress - 1. Put on some clothes, dress up, provide clothes.
2. Cover, envelop (about fog, darkness).

Ignorant - ignorant
Ignorant - not knowing decency, rude, impolite person.
Ignorant - uneducated, ignorant person, ignorant.

Learn - learn
To master - to comprehend something, to completely master something, to settle in.
Assimilate - 1. make something new, extraneous, take over from someone, your own, familiar to yourself. 2. Having understood properly, understanding something, perceive and remember. 3. Having swallowed, digested, processed (food).

Lucky - Lucky
Lucky - one who is lucky, happy.
Successful - successful, ending in luck.

As you can see, paronyms have significant semantic differences. Therefore, in order for your communication, meetings, conversations to be successful, do not be too lazy to look into the dictionary.

Good luck, Svetlana Nikitina

Natalia Erofeevskaya

When describing personal qualities in a resume, it is customary to indicate standard traits. Sociability is found in every second questionnaire. At the same time, some people do not understand what a skill is or simply do not possess it. It is enough for the employer to ask a few questions to understand whether you have the ability to communicate. How important is this trait for professional growth and communication with friends? What is human communication? - we give a definition and consider the signs, find out whether it is an advantage or a disadvantage.

What does sociable person mean?

The basis of this concept is the answer to the question. Communication is the ability to get along with people, regardless of status and degree of acquaintance. The skill is valued at work, as such a person is sent to important negotiations. A sociable personality manifests itself in the company. Such a person is distinguished by interesting communication, gesticulation, the ability to choose a topic of conversation, stories are retold to them in an interesting, lively and vivid way - this is what communicative (communicative) means in simple words.

What does sociable person mean? Unlike the sociable personality, communicative people are not just good storytellers who are fun to chat with at lunchtime. It is educated and delivered speech. He does not just talk, but also pursues a specific goal: to calm a dissatisfied client, to persuade a partner to make a deal, to reduce the time for obtaining documents. The sociable person knows how to negotiate and get results.

How to understand whether your interlocutor is a communicative person or not? Sometimes even a few minutes are enough for this - such a person gets real pleasure from communication. He easily selects words, is self-confident, charismatic in his own way, easily finds topics for conversation, regardless of who he communicates with. The ability to communicate interestingly and vividly does not depend on age- it can be a sociable girl or a gray-haired old man: a conversation with both will be not only pleasant, but most often useful, since truly communicative people are far from empty chatter.

First of all, this is someone who enjoys communication. A sociable person does not care with whom to communicate, he is interested in the process itself. Communicative people are characterized by flexibility in contacts, the ability and ability not to get lost when communicating in different situations, self-confidence, they easily adapt to new conditions, know how to successfully negotiate, strive for initiative and leadership in a team.

Communicative vs Communicative: What's the Difference?

More often, both of these words are used interchangeably without a second thought: a sociable (communicative) person - able to communicate, "easy" in conversation, knowing what to say and what to ask. In fact, if you dig deeper into word formation, there is a very fundamental difference:

"communicable" always used in relation to a person and is his positive characteristic - this is the ability of a person to establish contacts, sociability, pleasant and easy conversation;
"communicative"- has a slightly different meaning of the word than that in which it is usually used, and means "related to the transmission of information using language." It is used in relation to skills, skills, games, exercises, even dances and music.

Communication is of two types:

Written. The skills of a person who owns this skill come down to writing letters, filling out official documents. At the same time, he does not allow spelling errors, expresses thoughts clearly and to the point. Written communication skills are a necessary quality for secretaries and senior positions.
Oral. The secret of a successful interlocutor is. A sociable person has this skill to perfection. Plus, he knows how to turn the conversation in the right direction and persuade the interlocutor to his point of view. The conversation takes place in a calm tone, increased notes and pressure on the opponent are unacceptable.

A sociable person has a sense of tact, subtle humor, the ability to dress in accordance with the situation. He carefully observes the interlocutor, reads gestures. Does not enter into arguments and does not allow indignation, anger or irritation to take over.

Advantages and disadvantages of communication

People with communication skills are happy to be hired and promoted up the career ladder. But, it is worthwhile to understand that sociability borders on other skills: leadership and initiative. Not all managers are ready for such active employee behavior. Therefore, conflicts are possible, up to dismissal. However, the advantages of communication are much greater. Consider the advantages and disadvantages of communication. Among the positives:

Ability to communicate. The concept includes not empty chatter, but listening to a person, maintaining a conversation. People cross paths with similar interests. A sociable person finds common ground, developing common interests. Thus, he disposes the interlocutor to himself, so that later he can easily persuade him to his side.
Calm. Despite the activity and playfulness, a sociable person has equanimity. From him, fussiness, fear to participate in negotiations. People are attracted by calmness, goodwill and openness coming from a communicative personality.
Attentiveness. Such a person will be the first to respond to the greeting, smooth out the conflict, and sum up the results of the meeting. There will be no awkward pauses and useless negotiations with him. After talking with a sociable person, there is a feeling that he was talking with a good friend.

You should not consider a sociable person as a nice kind person. In the right situation he can be aggressive, and this manifests itself in the form of evil or witty jokes. True, he rarely resorts to reserve weapons when he needs to state his decision in an authoritarian manner.

Development of communication skills

This skill saves in many situations and helps to prove yourself as a valuable employee, but how to develop sociability in yourself, develop and improve sociability at work? Communication is not given by nature. It is impossible from a gloomy person who does not like communication, avoiding meetings with familiar people, in one day will turn into a pleasant conversationalist. To develop communication skills, follow these recommendations:

Avoid communication. If you see a classmate or former colleague in transport, then come up first. Talk to him, remember how you studied and worked together, ask what he is doing today. Feel free to approach strangers and ask for directions. This is the first step towards the development of sociability.
Don't be a bore. When preparing for a meeting with a friend or partner, many people predict in advance how the conversation will proceed. They imagine that they will have to talk about topics that are not interesting. Do not fall into tediousness, how the meeting will go depends on you. Come in a good mood, start a conversation first, turn the conversation in the direction you need.
Connect optimism. People are drawn to those who express benevolence, smile and affability. It is unlikely that you want to communicate with a person who has a dull face and slumped shoulders. helps to win over people and build trust.

Avoid Formality. Diversify your speech. In addition to the banal phrases “how are you”, “what's new”, tell us about yourself. The interlocutor is interested to know what you live, do. Of course, it doesn't have to be an hour long speech. Bet on brevity and clarity - this will solve many communication problems. However, overly dry answers and phrases will make the interlocutor think that you are not interested in the conversation.
Books for developing communication skills(sociability) will also be useful. Playing in the head the situations described in the special literature and modeling them on their own environment, it is quite possible from a beech, about which they say “how uncommunicative!” to turn, well, if not into “your boyfriend”, but into a pleasant conversationalist at least.

Conclusion

Many would like to be sociable and sociable, but, alas, not everyone is given - in part it is the same quality of personality as temperament and character. But if desired or even necessary, even the most unsociable and gloomy person can develop the ability to communicate and disposition to the interlocutor. Sociability is a quality that helps out at work, helps to move up the career ladder. In its pure form, the skill is rare and much in a person's ability to communicate in society depends on his life experience, the process of becoming a person, and even childhood memories and impressions.

Sociability also has negative features: since a person is influenced by external circumstances and qualities of character, the so-called “ability to communicate” often results in obsession or empty talk. In order to reach the golden mean and “remove” the label of a non-sociable girl (or boy) from yourself, you have to work on yourself, and then this quality, necessary for the acquisition of confidence, will please not only you, but also your interlocutors.

March 31, 2014, 14:34